it's not all black and white, but gray isn't my color

i find myself stuck on the whole paradox thing again.
i am full of them. it seems as though i am either black or white, although i do appreciate the gray area..but mostly it is when i am trying to convince myself that something is not entirely wrong....
then of course if i am not sure about things i research, and any research tends to have an equally compelling counter argument and i feel as though i am no further ahead because both sides make valid and convincing points and are backed up. while i know that some things in life are very black and white there is often room for interpretation and it is also generally circumstantial.
my head spins analyzing it all.
it makes it complicated to explain myself and who i am and how i am. and as much as i know what i believe and mostly why i believe it, i find it hard to explain to others...guess it is good that i am not a flat character, however i think i worry that because i am so all over the map and up down, left right and everything in between that relationships of any sort are difficult. i am either full of energy or slugging it, happy or miserable, and there is not often middle ground..but sometimes it can change in a 10 minute span....there are lots of thing i wish i was, and lots of ways i would like to be, and while i know that we are masters of our own change and it is our choices and behaviors, i still think that we were designed to think a certain way and behave a certain way for a reason and going outside of and beyond that is messing with something and similar to putting on a mask. generally people who try to do things to change and improve themselves tend to fail after a while because it is not who they are and they get tired of pretending. this is not to say that improvements cannot or should not be made, because i also know that some things are a learned behavior and those can be adapted while staying true to who you are .. i guess it really comes down to knowing who you are as a person, really truly down in your core....finding out the roots of certain behaviors and embracing the things that make you unique and who you are, and finding all the things that are not working and adapting them to your life in your own way. (all the while realizing that you will constantly struggle with your sinful urges and those are something you are meant to overcome, the good thing is we are told we don't have to do that alone)
so while i am stuck fighting the black and white mentality i seem to be stuck in a puddle of gray, but it's not all bad i suppose i can just add some glitter...lol